Are you meant for each other?
Rachel Heller, an American psychologist specialized in social and family psychology, and Amir Levine, a clinical psychiatrist whose research focuses on brain functioning and cognitive biases, have combined their expertise to create a revolutionary theory of attachment.
In this book, the authors explore affective behaviors and their origins based on their respective expertise. They argue that each individual possesses a conditioned attachment mechanism from childhood, which significantly influences their ability to establish healthy and harmonious intimate relationships.
The goal of this work is to help us identify these attachment mechanisms in order to better understand our own behaviors. By developing this understanding, we are able to experience more fulfilling and rewarding intimate relationships.
In this book, the authors explore affective behaviors and their origins based on their respective expertise. They argue that each individual possesses a conditioned attachment mechanism from childhood, which significantly influences their ability to establish healthy and harmonious intimate relationships.
The goal of this work is to help us identify these attachment mechanisms in order to better understand our own behaviors. By developing this understanding, we are able to experience more fulfilling and rewarding intimate relationships.
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- Love and attachment are distinct: Love is a deep feeling characterized by an intense connection, while attachment is a vital need for emotional closeness with another person.
- Attachment mechanisms are formed in childhood: The affective behaviors of our parental figures play a key role in the formation of our attachment mechanism. Positive interactions promote secure attachment, while negative interactions can lead to anxious or avoidant attachment mechanisms.
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"Love is not a transaction; love should make you whole, not half."
"In the realm of love, there is no such thing as yin and yang."
"Love is not about finding someone to complete you, but rather about finding someone who complements you."
"The best relationships are those in which both partners feel safe, respected, and loved."
"Love is not about control, but about freedom."